Self development

How we think about ourselves and others will largely determine the health of our relationships. These core beliefs are first developed based on how our needs are initially met as babies and continue to be downloaded into our brains based on the ways others interact with us. If we are well nurtured, encouraged, our primary needs met, then we develop a secure attachment style and we move out into life feeling capable to handle what comes our way. However, if those needs are neglected or we are actively abused and shamed, then we will likely develop either an anxious attachment style or a fearful attachment style. Relationships then become more difficult to navigate because we do not trust ourselves nor do we trust others. For many, reading about how to change our view of self/others is a great way to replace thoughts and beliefs that are not working with new ideas and information that does work.

• Any books written by Brene Brown www.brenebrown.com

• Tired of Trying to Measure Up by: Jeff VanVonderen *

• Healing the Shame that Binds You by: John Bradshaw

• Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality by: Paul Mason & Randi Kreger

• Enriching Your Relationship With Yourself and Others by: Sharon Loeschen

• Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend*

• The Pressures Off by: Larry Crabb*

• His Image; My Image by: Josh McDowell*

• Search for Significance by: Robert McGee*

• Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Peter Scazzero*

• Telling Yourself the Truth by: William Backus & Marie Chapian*

• Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

• Facing Codependence by: Pia Mellody (relating to addiction & childhood trauma)

• Breaking Free (workbook) by: Pia Mellody & Andrea Wells Miller

• The Anxiety Cure by Dr. Archibald “D. Hart*

• Silently Seduced (when parents make children their partners) by: Kenneth Adams

• The Betrayal Bond by: Patrick Cranes

• Dance of Anger by: Harriett Lerner (Written for women who struggle with anger)

• People Styles of Work by Bolton & Bolton (How people react when under stress- flexing to the other’s style)

• It Wasn’t Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion by: Beverly Engel

Self Esteem

• Meditations by Satir

• Enriching Your Relationship With Yourself and Others by: Sharon Loeschen

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Parenting

• Stop Negotiating With Your Teen by: Janet Sassoon Edgett

• Parenting from the Inside Out by: Daniel Siegel, MD

• Why Do They Act The Way They Do? by: David Walsh (Adolescent Brain Development Explanation)

• Taking Charge of ADHD by: Russell A. Barkley, PHD

• ADD- Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life: Strategies that Work from an Acclaimed Professional Organizer and a Renowned ADD Clinician by: Judith Kolberg and Kathleen Nadeau

• The Highly Sensitive Child by: Elaine N. Aron, PHD

Trauma

• The Body Keeps The Score by: Bessel A. Van der Kolk

• On The Threshold of Hope by: Diane Langberg*

Domestic Violence

• Why Does He Do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men by Lundy Bancroft

Affairs & Affair recovery

• Private Lies by: Frank Pittman

• Not Just Friends by: Shirley Glass

• Relationship Rescue by: Phil McGraw

• Close Calls! What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage by: David Carder*

• Anatomy of an Affair by Dave Carder*

• Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair by Dave Carder*

Trying to Decide to Divorce or Not

• Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by: Mira Kirshenbaum

• Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide To Knowing If Your Relationship Can-And Should- Be Saved by: Lundy Bancroft & Jac Patrissi

Sex Addiction

• Facing the Shadow by: Patrick Carnes, PhD

• Any books by Mark or Debbie Laaser

• Shattered Vows: Hope and healing for women who have been sexually betrayed by Debra Laaser*

Eating Disorder

Recommendations from The Emily Program are as follow:

• Crave: Why you binge eat and how to stop by Cynthia M. Bulik

• Overcoming Binge Eating by Christopher G. Fairburn

• Intuitive Eating: A revolutionary program that works by Evelyn Tribole M.S. R.D. and Elyse Resch M.S. R.D. F.A.D.A.

• My Big Bottom Blessing by: Teasi Cannon*

Work place bullying

• Back off: Your Kick-Ass Guide to Ending Bullying at Work by: Candace Mattice

Grief & Loss

• A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss by: Jerry L. Sittser*

Children's Books

• The Want Monsters and How They Stopped Ruling My World by: Chelo Manchego

• Betty Goes Bananas by: Steve Antony

• When Sophie Gets Angry — Really, Really Angry…by: Molly Bang

• In My Heart, A Book of Feelings by: Jo Witek